Today, June 28, is my golden birthday. That’s right, I turned 28 today! And you get to benefit from my birthday revelations. There’s so much more I want to share but let’s start with the three ways I plan to be of service going into my future!
These are Birthday Revelations about how I can be of service to the world now & later
Here’s how I desire to be of service in my 28th year and beyond…
No. 1: Creating and selling life-changing programs and products for “low-ticket prices.”
There’s one on my heart and mind right now that I will be launching soon. You’ll have 10 days to make your decision to join me in FULLY HER.
This is going to be a course/challenge type program focused on getting you into Decision and Full Commitment to a Vision of you fully expressed and highly successful. We’re talking about a really big “impossible” goal for you (personal to you) and deciding and committing to it.
For months, years, maybe even decades, you’ve left your arrival at this level of business success up to chance. You’ve gotten on trains headed in the totally opposite direction or even just stayed stalled out miles from your destination. You’ve waited for someone to hand you the ticket. I know because I’ve been there. And I know that no one really ever showed you how to get your mind, body, and spirit fully onboard to manifest success this big.
No worries. We’ve got this.
You’re about to have your ticket punched, love. And we’re gonna get the train moving.
FULLY HER will be a 3-week immersion with 3 live calls/videos, 16 lessons, and 6 totally new meditations. It’s gonna be less than $200 during the early bird period. I’m so excited to bring this to you.
No. 2: Working really deeply for years with amazing clients who come to me for coaching and support.
I’m gonna admit something I think I’ve only shared once before: I really deeply desire to fill 1-3 spots in the most intimate support package possible for the fee of $100,000. I’ve not totally known what that would look like, just felt the energy of requiring that much to work with me in a very specific way.
That energy has been swirling around and through me again and a few more details came through. For the right person(s), this would be “lifetime” coaching with me. That’s the word I heard around it.
I see these details so far: One year of unlimited calls and unlimited text/voice support. During that time, access to any program/product I launch. After year 1, one call every 6 months and unlimited text/voice support. Lifetime discount of 30% off any coaching packages (like if you wanted calls again) and other offers.
There’s more that will be revealed to me, I can feel it. And I’m grateful that these pieces of the vision have revealed themselves to me.
No. 3: In some other really massive ways that I’m not ready to share yet!
I’m asking myself why I ever bother mentioning this if I’m not ready to share details of the vision for these other ways I desire to be of service… Here’s why I’m mentioning this and keeping the details secret: Because I’ve finally, around my 28th birthday, given myself permission to keep some things close to my chest and to be protective of my dreams and visions for as long as I want to.
I never used to resonate with the memes I saw that said, “Be quiet while you make big moves.” I mean… I wanted to be the person who could do that, but it felt impossible. There was something in me, I think the result of past trauma, that compelled me to share everything, and I’m past that now. There’s a new story in me around this…
It is fully safe for me to keep BIG SHIPS docked quietly in my harbor until they’re ready for launch.
PLEASE SHARE IN THE COMMENTS how you desire to (and will be) of service now & later.
I want to hold the vision with you and cheer you on!
I daresay I found my soulmate early in life because of these 3 powerful tips I’m going to share with you today.
Ready to read these 3 powerful tips to help you manifest your soulmate?
It was a month before my 19th birthday when I saw a guy had checked out my OKCupid profile, and I messaged him. That night in May 2010 we went on our first date. Seeing as we’re celebrating our 9th anniversary this week, I’m qualified to share some tips for manifesting your own soulmate!
By doing what I’m going to share with you in this article, I met and fell in love with a man who I have lovingly described as the safe place from which I’ve been able to blossom.
I’ve grown more outgoing, more assertive, more confident, and in so many more ways than I can describe. But I only grew so much because I knew he saw me. Saw me the way I saw me. Saw me the way NO ONE ELSE EVER HAD.
That should give you a hint of the emotional stakes I felt when I was manifesting my soulmate…
I remember how excited I was as a kid for every holiday. As Thanksgiving or Easter approached, I was practically bouncing in my seat, ready to see my cousins and aunts and uncles and my grandmother. I’d build it up in my head. So excited to see them. As an adult, I can’t remember what exactly I thought would happen, but it was like knowing you were going to win the lottery. And then… at some point during the day, I would inevitably experience the crash you feel when the lotto numbers are called and you fuckin’ lost.
Growing up, that sense of emptiness like I’d lost something big was actually pretty persistent.
It didn’t matter WHERE I was… that emptiness followed.
How can I describe the craving I felt for love, kinship, community, BELONGING?
I generally had the sense that I was like nobody else around. No one GOT me. And though I tried, I didn’t really GET them either.
As a teenager, my only hope was that I’d someday find a guy who did get me. I prayed that my soulmate would come along, and fast. This brings me to my first tip for help you manifest your soulmate…
Manifest Your Soulmate Tip 1: Visualize, but more than that… imagine the FEELS
I spent time in visualization, though I wasn’t aware that this was a creative method that would actually bring him to me… I pictured, as my mother drove us somewhere and we sang along to cheesy ’80s music, that I’d someday be driving alongside my soulmate, the two of us singing the same songs I was now singing. I imagined taking my future beau to family gatherings. Imagined him having discussions with my male cousins about sports. I imagined the wholeness I would feel when standing by his side.
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Manifest Your Soulmate Tip 2: Learn to Recognize Near-Fits, and Hold Out for Perfect Fits
My path to my boyfriend taught me that there are near-fits and perfect fits, and you should definitely hold out for the perfect fit.
“You deserve to be YOU. Any change you’re going to make should be a change you want to make. Those around you — and I mean everyone — should be happy to support you in building your life the way you want and let go of their notions of what your life is supposed to look like.”
Rosella LaFevre, Long-Haul Master and Manifestation Teacher
Before Chris came a few other guys but one in particular comes to mind. He is a great guy, and I really hope he found his perfect fit, but we weren’t it. And yet… Spending the weekend at his house, hanging out with his mom was the first time in a while I’d felt at home. His mom was a real person. She wore her flaws on her sleeve but she was loving and kind. In the brief time I spent around her, she showed me unconditional love, of which I’d been starved for a while.
That relationship taught me that I could feel that homey feeling again but I could also hold out for someone who wouldn’t need me to change…
Here’s a really specific example: That boyfriend told me I’d have to learn how to drive if we were going to stay together. The truth is I had one lesson behind the wheel of a Buick Rainier at 16 years old and that was enough for me. To this day, I have no desire to drive. Chris has never forced the issue, never told me I need to drive. He’s happy to be my chauffeur. And now there’s Uber, so that’s awesome…
You deserve to be YOU. Any change you’re going to make should be a change you want to make. Those around you — and I mean everyone — should be happy to support you in building your life the way you want and let go of their notions of what your life is supposed to look like.
If they don’t? Call them in. (And while these tips work for manifesting your romantic soulmate partner, they also work for calling in soulmate friends, soulmate clients, and soulmate employees!)
Manifest Your Soulmate Tip 3: Ruthlessly Edit Toxicity from Your Life
You can also take action to remove the toxicity from your life that prevents your soulmates from coming to you. If there isn’t any toxicity in your life, that’s great! But there was in mine. And truthfully, I didn’t eliminate these beyond-sour relationships until after I met my boyfriend, cutting these ties I’m going to tell you about helped me to manifest a soul family.
“Clearing space for the people who will LOVE you as you are while empowering you to grow may be painful at the start, but it is rewarding as fuck. I promise.”
Rosella LaFevre, Long-Haul Master and Manifestation Teacher
Here’s the most potent example I can give you of this…
Most of that very same family I used to be ecstatic about seeing each Easter (and on every other major holiday) are people I no longer talk to. My parents’ ugly divorce really forced the issue… And I decided to say “ta-ta for now” to my maternal family.
There was anger on their side that I refused to exile my father. And I was pissed as hell that they were trying to make me pick sides. Right before my college graduation I allowed my mother to effectively disown me…
This left a void. I had no idea how I would spend my holidays now. I decided I would never go back until I am apologized to, and that still hasn’t happened nearly 6 years later.
I missed the big family gatherings, though. I missed being surrounded by lots of people, and I craved, even if I didn’t realize it at the time, finding a family that would love me unconditionally.
So the last I saw my mother and her family was Easter Sunday in 2013.
By Thanksgiving 2013, I was invited with my father to spend holidays with a family we’d known for years. These beautiful people are who I’ve spent every Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter with in the years since.
Clearing space for the people who will LOVE you as you are while empowering you to grow may be painful at the start, but it is rewarding as fuck. I promise.
Manifest Your Soulmate: 3 Powerful Tips Recap
Tip 1: Visualize, but more than that… Imagine the FEELS
Tip 2: Learn to Recognize Near-Fits, and Hold Out for Perfect Fits
Tip 3: Ruthlessly Edit Toxicity from Your Life
Manifest Your Soulmate with This Homework
Take some time today to envision (with or without putting pen to paper: your choice) the soulmates you’re making space for, whether they’re a romantic partner, fans of your work, paying clients, or a “new” family that gets you. Here are some prompts for your reflection:
How will your life change when you manifest your soulmate (or soulmates)?
How will you feel when you manifest your soulmate, a person who is a perfect fit for you?
In your past relationships, how did you know they were only a near fit and not a perfect fit?
Who is already in your life — loving you, supporting you — and why are you grateful for them?
Who in your life doesn’t deserve to be there, and makes your life worse in any/some/so many ways?
How can you release toxic relationships from your life? What would that take?
The simplest way to turn thoughts to things? The Sponsoring Thought.
What’s a Sponsoring Thought?
A Sponsoring Thought is described by Neale Donald Walsch, author of the Conversations With God series, as “a deep-seated initial idea that we already have what we are not now experiencing.”
Below I share with you my favorite example from my life of a Sponsoring Thought, and how it helped me turn thoughts to things (or, an experience that changed my life!).
How a Sponsoring Thought Can Turn Thoughts to Things
How it works:
1) Know what you want. 2) Figure out one thought that would absolutely make you equal to the desired outcome. You can call this one thought a Sponsoring Thought. 3) Play with the thought (thinking it over, writing it, saying it aloud, and letting it take root).
Before I manifested the love of my life, I came to deeply believe I was the world’s best girlfriend (and this was when I had no boyfriend to speak of) and that whoever I ended up with would be the world’s luckiest man.
I was 18 when we met and we’re celebrating our 9th anniversary next month.
That Sponsoring Thought that said I’m the world’s best girlfriend is absolutely a HUGE reason why my soulmate showed up for me. By repeatedly playing with that idea, I made it feel real that I already had the kind of love I desired and deserved, and that paved the way for him to show up!
Other Examples of Sponsoring Thoughts to Help You Turn Thoughts to Things
If you wanted to make a lot of money, you could practice a Sponsoring Thought like, “Money finds me irresistible.”
If you wanted to travel the world, you could practice a Sponsoring Thought like, “I am a citizen of the world.”
If you want to get pregnant and be a mother, you could practice a Sponsoring Thought like, “I’m the best mom in the world.”
If you wanted to make the investment in LONG-HAUL MASTERY and turn it into amazing long-term manifestations, you might practice a Sponsoring Thought like “I’m a Long-Haul Master like Rosella and manifesting long-term good is so freaking easy.” 😉
Comment below the Sponsoring Thought you’re going to play with!
Abraham Hicks teaches many seminars on how to let go of doubt and get over resistance. Abraham Hicks has said, “We say, no, your doubt is the indication that you’re killing this project with contradictory thought.”
So many other Manifestation Teachers hype you up into thinking that any negative feeling, like doubt, keeps you from receiving or manifesting your desires.
I say: Not so! You can embrace doubt to manifest your desires.
Doubt can be harmless to the process of manifestation. Sure, doubt could stop you from successful manifestation. (And I’ll cover below the one way you can allow doubt to stop you from receiving.) But it doesn’t have to if you’ll do the two things I’ll tell you below! Let me show you how to embrace doubt.
And let’s begin with a very simple principle: Yes, you can receive the experience you desire if you feel bad before you have it.
You can doubt and still receive it. You can fear and still receive it. You can grieve and still receive it. You can feel unworthy and still receive it.
Heavens, do you actually think every person who becomes a parent feels worthy before they have their kids?! When you think of it this way, it’s pretty easy to see how you could embrace doubt and receive what you desire to manifest, right?
The human part of you can’t hold you back from what your soul knows will serve the growth of every part of you. That’s why it’s safe to embrace doubt when manifesting.
Rosella LaFevre, Long-Haul Master and Manifestation Teacher
I Doubted Just Before I Received One of the Biggest, Most Meaningful Manifestations of my Life
Let me take you back in time…
February 2010: I lay on a twin bed, plastic mattress cover crinkling as I rolled over. The huge 8th-floor corner dorm room was dark. Earbuds in, I listened to John Mayer crooning and felt hot tears slide down my cheeks. Feeling so alone, I cried for the love I didn’t have. Every love song I’d ever heard had promised me a love I had begun to think I would never receive. And I wondered, where the hell is he? The mythical He.
May 2010: I lay on my leopard print sheets in my pink-striped childhood bedroom staring at my white MacBook. Logged into the dating site OKCupid, I saw that a guy had checked out my profile. He was a writer like me. I sent him a message and hours later we were on a date listening to The Get Up Kids in his car.
August 2010: I lay in the dark in another bed — his Queen bed — with the guy. We snuggled and listened as the iPod Video plucked from my library the song “Yellow” by Coldplay. We picked it as our song.
See, I experienced doubt and despair as I prepared myself to receive my dream partner, but I always held out hope. I deeply believed that if it were POSSIBLE (and everything is possible!), then eventually it would happen for me that I’d find love.
The Only Way Doubt Could Stop You From Manifesting
There’s just one way that your doubt could keep you from receiving the experience, thing, person you desire in your life. Can you guess how that would happen? With your consent.
OK… that was half the answer. Let’s rewind and check in on what actually is doubt, on what it means to experience doubt.
To doubt (verb), is to feel uncertain about something.
When you doubt, you look at the world around you and allow yourself to buy into the idea that the experience you desire isn’t happening, and possibly can’t or won’t at all happen. The experience of doubting itself is often just a train of thought that we latch onto, continue thinking, and allow to feed our emotions and create inner turmoil. And, like, it’s really not that big a fucking deal… Unless or until you allow it to stop you from taking action.
Manifestation pretty much always requires action. (In fact, I can’t think of a single thing or way you could manifest that wouldn’t require some action.)
Receiving money requires you to notice you have it. To receive money you must deposit a check, ask someone for payment, send along wire transfer information, or even simply log into your banking app to see, hey, there’s money there! (Did the money exist before you observed it?)
Receiving a love relationship requires you to connect with another human being. That requires the speaking of words, the looking of looks, putting yourself in a place where you can be found by someone. Heck, it might require only that you open the door when a salesperson comes or the cable technician. But it certainly requires action.
Receiving a job requires you to take any number of actions: Telling others you’re looking, preparing a resume, getting clear on what work you want to do, possibly getting additional training or certifications.
And so… Doubt only has as much power to block manifestations as you give it. And you only really give it that power when you allow it to mean you should quit taking action.
In that case, if you were to allow doubt that power over you, if you did quit taking action in the direction of your desires, then maybe it’s because you didn’t really want the thing. And that’s perfectly cool! Perfectly valid! If that happens, then the doubt served you very well.
Embrace Doubt Knowing It Can’t Stop Shit – Your Wild Hopes Are Surer Than You Know!
It was a Wild Hope that I’d receive love from a man who could love me unconditionally. I didn’t grow up with examples of healthy relationships. My parents threw things at each other when I was very young. They were separated by the time I turned 15. My maternal grandparents’ marriage fell apart in the late 80s before I was born in 1991. My paternal grandmother passed away when my dad was a toddler and my paternal grandfather passed before I was born.
I think the only example I’d ever seen of a strong relationship was the couple who lived next door, and had me call them Aunt Alice and Uncle John. We attended their 50th wedding anniversary after they moved and before they passed away.
So why I ever thought it would be or had to be possible for me was kind of… wild! I definitely doubted at times. But I also held firm that it had to be possible and as long as it were possible, I’d keep showing up and taking action to put myself in the place where it could find me.
And ultimately, I was kind of young when it did! In May 2010 when Chris and I met, I was excited to be turning 19 the following month.
The amazing thing? Our love was always. going. to. happen.
Doubt can’t stop what your soul is determined to deliver to you.
Rosella LaFevre, Long-Haul Master and Manifestation Teacher
My soul knew Chris was coming to me. Or that it was bringing me to him. (However you choose to view that!) What do I mean? Well, five years before we met, I dreamed a very vivid dream. Emotionally vivid. I felt unconditional, soul-stirring, heart-warming love in a dream. I actually thought the dream was about my crush at the time, one of the young guys who worked at the Rita’s water ice stand whose name I still didn’t know at the time. In the dream a name was revealed to me: Christopher.
Here’s a picture of the journal entry where I recorded the dream:
I LOVE that I found this journal entry a couple of years after Chris and I met so that I could show you how inevitable your own Wild Hopes and desires are! Your soul is guiding you. It’s the human part of you that doubts. The human part of you can’t hold you back from what your soul knows will serve the growth of every part of you. That’s why I say you should embrace doubt; it can’t stop what your soul is determined to deliver to you.
How to Embrace the Doubt (The 2 Things You Must Do)
I’ve shown you, with an example from my life, how doubt doesn’t mean you don’t get to have what you desire. You can manifest when you embrace doubt, which is done in two very simple steps:
Express your doubt. Feel it. Process it by allowing it a voice. (You might journal it out. You might just watch something that helps you to cry and move it with your tears. Or whatever else you find works for you.)
Keep taking action in the direction of your dreams. I’m not telling you that you need to take action in any specific time frame. But you just keep marching forward. I can’t tell you how many different matches I tried on a dating site before I met Chris. I just kept making myself available for the love I desired to find me. Be like 18-year-old Rosella who kissed frogs to find her prince. (And know it’s OK to set boundaries and have standards, but that’s probably a topic for another post!)
Seriously? I actually deeply love the moments when I doubt. I embrace doubt because doubt has preceded every amazing thing I’ve done. And then I did it anyway. So when I feel doubt now, or a big steaming pile of grief over something that hasn’t happened (yet), I know I’m about to do the amazing!
Now that you know how to embrace doubt to manifest what you desire, read about divine timing!
She needed help. She needed to feel safe. She needed a home. And we didn’t think we were ready. The Universe had other plans.
WHAT IS DIVINE TIMING? WHEN WILL I GET WHAT I WANT?
Let’s answer your questions about divine timing.
Tootsie is the newest member of our family.
She waddled into our lives on November 9. Let’s talk about Tootsie and then about manifesting!
She was found outside, needing a bath, back legs not working well, and her breathing raspy. She was thought to be in labor or even poisoned. She went to a vet and then the people who found her needed to find her a safe place for the weekend, in out of the cold. I volunteered our apartment home.
I sort of immediately became a cat mom. I was studying her face, her body. I tried to pet her. And I begged her to poop before noon the next day.
And she DID! Overnight, she pooped and I was literally SO EXCITED to see the poop in the pan when I woke up.
She was eating. And enjoying rubs more frequently. And drinking water. And more pooping. Haha
I wanted to give her a new name to honor her new life with us. Nothing was coming to me immediately. And then a few days ago, I was talking to her and used “Tootsie” as a nickname and I KNEW in my body, this is her name!
I’d been mentally/energetically preparing for cat ownership for a while before she showed up. My thoughts were turning to cat ownership many times a week for at least a month before Tootsie showed up.
I’d feel how much I loved the idea of bringing a cat into our home while honoring my fears and doubts about being ready; and then just before I let my thoughts wander to other subjects, I’d surrender, “It’ll happen when it’s meant to happen.” I wasn’t taking any actions toward it. I just let my thoughts and feelings line up with a cat entering my life when it was meant to, and I took action when I knew I needed to take action (saying yes to taking her for “the weekend”).
About Divine Timing
Divine timing may not LOOK convenient. It may not feel like you’re ready yet. Actually… you might as well call Divine Timing this instead: Looks-Totally-Illogical Timing.
– Rosella LaFevre, Long-Haul Master and Manifestation Teacher
Once I saw her in those first moments, I KNEW she was going to be my furever pet. I was afraid to admit it, but I knew. Because I’d been preparing*, though I hadn’t prepared for a pet in any specific time frame, and this was divine timing. Divine timing may not LOOK convenient. It may not feel like you’re ready yet. (I had multiple moments of surrendering to the idea that I could do this and do this NOW.) There’s another name for Divine Timing that you can use: Looks-Totally-Illogical Timing!
How Preparation Plays into Divine Timing
I was only vaguely aware that I was mentally/energetically preparing for owning my first cat as an adult. (I grew up in a house with as many as four cats at a time so I’ve always loved them but I didn’t believe I was ready to own one yet.) Still, that’s what was happening.
My thoughts were turning to cat ownership many times a week for at least a month before Tootsie showed up. I’d feel how much I loved the idea of bringing a cat into our home while honoring my fears and doubts about being ready; and then just before I let my thoughts wander to other subjects, I’d surrender, “It’ll happen when it’s meant to happen.” I wasn’t taking any actions toward it. I just let my thoughts and feelings line up with a cat entering my life when it was meant to, and I took action when I knew I needed to take action (saying yes to taking her for “the weekend”).
The lessons here about divine timing and energetic preparation apply to any new experience you’ve asked to receive (no matter the degree to which you’ve consciously asked for it). This is manifesting.
Have you ever manifested something when it felt like you so were not ready? What does the story of Tootsie’s arrival in our lives bring up for you? You’re invited to share in the comments!
Circular driveway, Penthouse Apartment, 24/7 Security, Key Fob Access, Walk-in Closet, Subway Tile backsplash in the brand new kitchen, biggest bathroom I’ve EVER had…
CAN YOU HONESTLY SAY YOU’RE TURNED ON BY THE HOME YOU’VE CREATED FOR YOURSELF?
One night, I was waiting for a food delivery. As I drafted a text message to the guard in the lobby to let them know a delivery would be coming, I had to choose a word to refer to the floor I live on.
See… three years before that night my boyfriend and I moved out of the apartment with his mom and her boyfriend on the lease, where we were sleeping on couches, into our second apartment together. We still live here. It’s on the top floor of a high-rise in Northeast Philadelphia, overlooking one of the city’s beautiful parks, with a balcony, and a totally brand new kitchen and bathroom with motherfuckin’ subway tile.
We were so excited, and relieved, and did I mention EXCITED?! A space of our own again, that we could do with as we please, and where we were meant to be. And another cool thing: while the building’s other floors have numbered buttons in the elevator, the button for my floor says “PH” for penthouse.
(AND you have to swipe a key fob to even PRESS the button for the penthouse! Like, kind neighbors who live below us who get on the elevator first ask where we’re going so they can press the button for us, and we have to say, “I’ve gotta get it, thank you!”)
Like… We’re fucking special.
Chris has, since we moved in, called us “penthouse people,” with ownership, pride. And I couldn’t. I couldn’t call the floor we live on anything other than the “10th floor.” I would never dare say penthouse.
But that night 3 years after we moved in, as I drafted the text to the guard… I realized why I wasn’t just typing the word “penthouse.” It dawned on me that I had a block about referring to my home using this one specific term for fear of sounding like a pompous jerk.
As soon as I realized WHY I wanted to censor myself on this (and have done for years), I also realized I had to push myself to do it, even if I was squirming. Because my next level? It may be a bigger apartment… but it’s definitely going to be on the penthouse floor. Because after all…
I’m a Penthouse person.
And as I write this, I realize that perhaps the “key” to upleveling into a bigger apartment, which has felt out of reach for me, was deciding that I AM a Penthouse person.
Owning who you are (or will be at the next level, knowing you can call in the next level right now by adopting that identity), after all, is one of the keys to getting what you want.
In fact, writing the paragraph above about the high-rise, subway tile, park-view apartment that I was feeling dull about got my blood racing. I’m turned on when I tell you about this amazing thing I manifested for myself and my boyfriend.
Shit, I forgot to mention the WALK IN CLOSET.
All my life I DREAMED of a walk in closet. NOW? It’s my fucking *normal* reality.
Like fuck me! I FORGOT how AMAZING my home is. And for me to call in a bigger apartment on the same floor (my next level home), I get to remember how awesome this is, and that I created it for us!