Today, June 28, is my golden birthday. That’s right, I turned 28 today! And you get to benefit from my birthday revelations. There’s so much more I want to share but let’s start with the three ways I plan to be of service going into my future!
These are Birthday Revelations about how I can be of service to the world now & later
Here’s how I desire to be of service in my 28th year and beyond…
No. 1: Creating and selling life-changing programs and products for “low-ticket prices.”
There’s one on my heart and mind right now that I will be launching soon. You’ll have 10 days to make your decision to join me in FULLY HER.
This is going to be a course/challenge type program focused on getting you into Decision and Full Commitment to a Vision of you fully expressed and highly successful. We’re talking about a really big “impossible” goal for you (personal to you) and deciding and committing to it.
For months, years, maybe even decades, you’ve left your arrival at this level of business success up to chance. You’ve gotten on trains headed in the totally opposite direction or even just stayed stalled out miles from your destination. You’ve waited for someone to hand you the ticket. I know because I’ve been there. And I know that no one really ever showed you how to get your mind, body, and spirit fully onboard to manifest success this big.
No worries. We’ve got this.
You’re about to have your ticket punched, love. And we’re gonna get the train moving.
FULLY HER will be a 3-week immersion with 3 live calls/videos, 16 lessons, and 6 totally new meditations. It’s gonna be less than $200 during the early bird period. I’m so excited to bring this to you.
No. 2: Working really deeply for years with amazing clients who come to me for coaching and support.
I’m gonna admit something I think I’ve only shared once before: I really deeply desire to fill 1-3 spots in the most intimate support package possible for the fee of $100,000. I’ve not totally known what that would look like, just felt the energy of requiring that much to work with me in a very specific way.
That energy has been swirling around and through me again and a few more details came through. For the right person(s), this would be “lifetime” coaching with me. That’s the word I heard around it.
I see these details so far: One year of unlimited calls and unlimited text/voice support. During that time, access to any program/product I launch. After year 1, one call every 6 months and unlimited text/voice support. Lifetime discount of 30% off any coaching packages (like if you wanted calls again) and other offers.
There’s more that will be revealed to me, I can feel it. And I’m grateful that these pieces of the vision have revealed themselves to me.
No. 3: In some other really massive ways that I’m not ready to share yet!
I’m asking myself why I ever bother mentioning this if I’m not ready to share details of the vision for these other ways I desire to be of service… Here’s why I’m mentioning this and keeping the details secret: Because I’ve finally, around my 28th birthday, given myself permission to keep some things close to my chest and to be protective of my dreams and visions for as long as I want to.
I never used to resonate with the memes I saw that said, “Be quiet while you make big moves.” I mean… I wanted to be the person who could do that, but it felt impossible. There was something in me, I think the result of past trauma, that compelled me to share everything, and I’m past that now. There’s a new story in me around this…
It is fully safe for me to keep BIG SHIPS docked quietly in my harbor until they’re ready for launch.
PLEASE SHARE IN THE COMMENTS how you desire to (and will be) of service now & later.
I want to hold the vision with you and cheer you on!
It’s true. The verdict is in. Law of Attraction SUCKS.
At least the way most (other) people teach it!
When did you first hear about the Law of Attraction? I was about 14 when I watched The Secret with a parent. This was my introduction to the concept. And before the movie was even over, my parent immediately called it something like a pipe dream. “It would be nice if it worked like that, but it doesn’t,” they said.
Trusting my parent as the voice of reason/finality, I put it out of my mind.
I didn’t hear of the concept again until I was about 23 years old trying to build a business. At the same time, someone told me about Abraham Hicks and I started listening to all the YouTube clips from their seminars and reading their books. I saw others talking about LOA in Facebook groups.
Even the way Abraham explains the Law of Attraction, I struggled with the application. There were at least three ways that LOA teachings fell short for me. I’m going to share them below, and I’d love to hear in the comments what you relate to or if there are other “problems” you have with LOA.
I’m also going to share with you not just the frustrating part but the way I overcame or made sense of the shortfalls of other manifestation teachings.
Here’s the first way manifestation/Law of Attraction teachings fell short for me:
The FRUSTRATION: The disconnect between the idea that we must accept full responsibility, and the idea that we must trust the Universe/God. This creates too much confusion. “Is it my fault or God’s fault I don’t have what I want?” I can’t tell you how many times I asked myself that question.
The RELIEF: Fuck responsibility. I mean… stop thinking about it. Do what you know to do and cultivate the idea that your desire simply can’t NOT happen. It’s not even about trusting the Universe or God (holy shit… I just wrote that!)… It’s about committing to your decision about what you get to experience. (This one takes practice admittedly.)
Here’s the second way manifestation teachings fell short for me:
The FRUSTRATION: Too often, LOA/manifesting is talked about in terms of ‘positive thoughts only.’ But how do you think positively when life sucks, when times are tough, when money’s tight, when food is scarce, when nobody is listening, and nothing is working?????? Haha. I’m poking fun a little, but seriously! It can feel simply IMPOSSIBLE for someone who is struggling to ‘just think your way rich’ (or happy or healthy or loved or anything else).
The RELIEF: You can think bad thoughts. In fact, it’s sure as shit gonna happen, especially if you try to force yourself not to ‘go there.’ But just by coming back to ONE positive idea that’s aligned with what you desire, you can achieve / receive it.
Here’s the third way LOA teachings fell short for me:
The FRUSTRATION: LOA teachers say, “be ready and it will come.” But what about when you keep insisting, “I’m ready, I’m ready,” and it doesn’t show up? And how long is it supposed to take before it shows up? A mindset coach I know has talked about “do the work and clear the blocks and money should show up in two days; if it doesn’t, you didn’t clear all the blocks.” I can’t tell you how that fucked with me. I’ve now spent years TRYING, exerting real EFFORT, to move past the blocks I saw all around me, and I really legitimately fooled myself for a while that it was all about having to clear the blocks.
The RELIEF: It really FUCKING isn’t about clearing blocks. I’d never heard of “blocks” when I was manifesting my soulmate. I just felt whatever came up along the way (doubt, fear, grief, etc) and moved through it, deciding over and over that I could have what I desired.
Share in the comments: Did you struggle with any of these concepts yourself? Is there some other way you feel frustrated with the Law of Attraction?
I get asked questions about how to manifest, and I LOVE answering! Today’s post is a roundup of some recent manifesting questions you’ve had for me, along with my responses.
Today, I’m answering a manifestation question on finding blocks to manifesting, another on what it means when it didn’t show up on your deadline, and another on how to manifest a neighbor moving. Read on for the wisdom!
Do you know where you can ask me more of your manifestation questions? There’s a free Facebook group called Manifesting Good Shit hosted by me! It’s where I share daily guidance, do live videos, answer every single manifestation question you have, and celebrate your manifesting wins with you!
Manifestation Question 1: What if you don’t know what your blockage is… How did you figure that out?
A: When I manifested the love of my life, and freedom from emotional abuse, and a Penthouse apartment, I didn’t know there were such things as “blocks.”
I deliberately chose to ignore reasons or ideas that said I couldn’t have what I wanted. I processed (FELT & released) any emotion around not having what I wanted, like when I doubted I could find love and made the decision (again) that I would find love. So… maybe don’t look for fucking blocks.
Give yourself whatever you can possibly give yourself right now to meet your own needs whether emotional, mental or physical. The experiences you desire will have no choice but to show up for you then!
We get more of what we think about so if you keep asking what’s blocking your manifestation, you’re going to manifest more “blocks.” More obstacles will show up to keep you from what you want.
I don’t mean to say that you shouldn’t be self-aware or that doing inner work to remove limiting ideas are a waste of time. But… sometimes the thing you need to do to manifest what you want is to take a break from all the inner work, and just BE.
But for those of you craving an action: play with a Sponsoring Thought! I’ve written on my blog about the singular idea that I kept playing with before the love of my life showed up, and I’ll just give it away here:
“I’m the best girlfriend in the world, and any guy is lucky to have me.”
I would make mental lists of why I was the best girlfriend in the world (even when I didn’t have a boyfriend). Playing with that idea, how could the right & perfect-for-me someone NOT show up?! 😉
Manifestation Question 2: How do you cope when something doesn’t specifically manifest? I think I’m manifesting wrong. Not comfortable saying what but, feeling bummed since I’m pretty sure it isn’t happening. Any advice appreciated! FYI I set 3 dates for three events.
A: To be totally honest: I don’t find dates that helpful to me in the manifestation process. When setting a goal or recognizing my desire for a new experience, I don’t usually attach a date to it.
A shift: What if the Universe’s Timing is infinitely better than your own? Sooner is not always better/best!
Manifestation Question 3: Anyone know how to manifest a neighbor moving? Don’t want to go into detail but, she’s the devil. I just ignore her tbh but, she constantly stirs up drama
A: I really wouldn’t devote too much energy to her or to trying to get rid of her, but focus on manifesting cooperation from all people in your life. And really, that looks like: meeting your own needs and being an example of pure love & cooperation to all those who surround you.
Be cooperative with people and examine your thoughts when you find it impossible to be cooperative with someone.
And feel free to repeat some affirmations or afformations that center on how cooperative the whole Universe and everyone in it are!
Affirmations like… “The Universe, and everyone in it, loves me and wants me to enjoy life.” Afformations would be questions like… “Why am I so easy to get along with? What about me brings out only the best in people?” etc.
In this post, you’ll learn the 5-step manifesting process, what you can create when you use it, why my approach to manifesting is foolproof, and what I’ve created using it.
There is a five-step process for creating anything you want. It looks like this:
1️⃣ Practice mindfulness, and specifically stop the negative thought train
2️⃣ Engage creative energy, and take one step toward the desired outcome
3️⃣ Be vulnerable, and take away the power the current circumstances have upon you.
4️⃣ Give it up to grace, and surrender to your desired creation entering life in its own damn way.
5️⃣ Worship your body, and give it whatever it needs.
What else do you need to know?
Honestly, You Can’t Fucq Up Using This 5-Step Manifesting Process
The beautiful thing about these steps? You create while truly practicing all of these steps simultaneously, so you can never truly screw it up. Though there are pitfalls to look out for, and skillful coaching can help you navigate.
These are the same five steps I used to course-correct when I was facing a possible eviction a few years ago (I’ll tell you about this in a future blog post!). They are the steps to manifest solutions to scary problems AND the steps to create awesome good things without drama. (Either way you need to use them, they work!)
THAT’S NOT ALL…
They’re also actually the same steps I took to manifest the love of my life, and we celebrated our 9th anniversary this month!
I daresay I found my soulmate early in life because of these 3 powerful tips I’m going to share with you today.
Ready to read these 3 powerful tips to help you manifest your soulmate?
It was a month before my 19th birthday when I saw a guy had checked out my OKCupid profile, and I messaged him. That night in May 2010 we went on our first date. Seeing as we’re celebrating our 9th anniversary this week, I’m qualified to share some tips for manifesting your own soulmate!
By doing what I’m going to share with you in this article, I met and fell in love with a man who I have lovingly described as the safe place from which I’ve been able to blossom.
I’ve grown more outgoing, more assertive, more confident, and in so many more ways than I can describe. But I only grew so much because I knew he saw me. Saw me the way I saw me. Saw me the way NO ONE ELSE EVER HAD.
That should give you a hint of the emotional stakes I felt when I was manifesting my soulmate…
I remember how excited I was as a kid for every holiday. As Thanksgiving or Easter approached, I was practically bouncing in my seat, ready to see my cousins and aunts and uncles and my grandmother. I’d build it up in my head. So excited to see them. As an adult, I can’t remember what exactly I thought would happen, but it was like knowing you were going to win the lottery. And then… at some point during the day, I would inevitably experience the crash you feel when the lotto numbers are called and you fuckin’ lost.
Growing up, that sense of emptiness like I’d lost something big was actually pretty persistent.
It didn’t matter WHERE I was… that emptiness followed.
How can I describe the craving I felt for love, kinship, community, BELONGING?
I generally had the sense that I was like nobody else around. No one GOT me. And though I tried, I didn’t really GET them either.
As a teenager, my only hope was that I’d someday find a guy who did get me. I prayed that my soulmate would come along, and fast. This brings me to my first tip for help you manifest your soulmate…
Manifest Your Soulmate Tip 1: Visualize, but more than that… imagine the FEELS
I spent time in visualization, though I wasn’t aware that this was a creative method that would actually bring him to me… I pictured, as my mother drove us somewhere and we sang along to cheesy ’80s music, that I’d someday be driving alongside my soulmate, the two of us singing the same songs I was now singing. I imagined taking my future beau to family gatherings. Imagined him having discussions with my male cousins about sports. I imagined the wholeness I would feel when standing by his side.
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Manifest Your Soulmate Tip 2: Learn to Recognize Near-Fits, and Hold Out for Perfect Fits
My path to my boyfriend taught me that there are near-fits and perfect fits, and you should definitely hold out for the perfect fit.
“You deserve to be YOU. Any change you’re going to make should be a change you want to make. Those around you — and I mean everyone — should be happy to support you in building your life the way you want and let go of their notions of what your life is supposed to look like.”
Rosella LaFevre, Long-Haul Master and Manifestation Teacher
Before Chris came a few other guys but one in particular comes to mind. He is a great guy, and I really hope he found his perfect fit, but we weren’t it. And yet… Spending the weekend at his house, hanging out with his mom was the first time in a while I’d felt at home. His mom was a real person. She wore her flaws on her sleeve but she was loving and kind. In the brief time I spent around her, she showed me unconditional love, of which I’d been starved for a while.
That relationship taught me that I could feel that homey feeling again but I could also hold out for someone who wouldn’t need me to change…
Here’s a really specific example: That boyfriend told me I’d have to learn how to drive if we were going to stay together. The truth is I had one lesson behind the wheel of a Buick Rainier at 16 years old and that was enough for me. To this day, I have no desire to drive. Chris has never forced the issue, never told me I need to drive. He’s happy to be my chauffeur. And now there’s Uber, so that’s awesome…
You deserve to be YOU. Any change you’re going to make should be a change you want to make. Those around you — and I mean everyone — should be happy to support you in building your life the way you want and let go of their notions of what your life is supposed to look like.
If they don’t? Call them in. (And while these tips work for manifesting your romantic soulmate partner, they also work for calling in soulmate friends, soulmate clients, and soulmate employees!)
Manifest Your Soulmate Tip 3: Ruthlessly Edit Toxicity from Your Life
You can also take action to remove the toxicity from your life that prevents your soulmates from coming to you. If there isn’t any toxicity in your life, that’s great! But there was in mine. And truthfully, I didn’t eliminate these beyond-sour relationships until after I met my boyfriend, cutting these ties I’m going to tell you about helped me to manifest a soul family.
“Clearing space for the people who will LOVE you as you are while empowering you to grow may be painful at the start, but it is rewarding as fuck. I promise.”
Rosella LaFevre, Long-Haul Master and Manifestation Teacher
Here’s the most potent example I can give you of this…
Most of that very same family I used to be ecstatic about seeing each Easter (and on every other major holiday) are people I no longer talk to. My parents’ ugly divorce really forced the issue… And I decided to say “ta-ta for now” to my maternal family.
There was anger on their side that I refused to exile my father. And I was pissed as hell that they were trying to make me pick sides. Right before my college graduation I allowed my mother to effectively disown me…
This left a void. I had no idea how I would spend my holidays now. I decided I would never go back until I am apologized to, and that still hasn’t happened nearly 6 years later.
I missed the big family gatherings, though. I missed being surrounded by lots of people, and I craved, even if I didn’t realize it at the time, finding a family that would love me unconditionally.
So the last I saw my mother and her family was Easter Sunday in 2013.
By Thanksgiving 2013, I was invited with my father to spend holidays with a family we’d known for years. These beautiful people are who I’ve spent every Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter with in the years since.
Clearing space for the people who will LOVE you as you are while empowering you to grow may be painful at the start, but it is rewarding as fuck. I promise.
Manifest Your Soulmate: 3 Powerful Tips Recap
Tip 1: Visualize, but more than that… Imagine the FEELS
Tip 2: Learn to Recognize Near-Fits, and Hold Out for Perfect Fits
Tip 3: Ruthlessly Edit Toxicity from Your Life
Manifest Your Soulmate with This Homework
Take some time today to envision (with or without putting pen to paper: your choice) the soulmates you’re making space for, whether they’re a romantic partner, fans of your work, paying clients, or a “new” family that gets you. Here are some prompts for your reflection:
How will your life change when you manifest your soulmate (or soulmates)?
How will you feel when you manifest your soulmate, a person who is a perfect fit for you?
In your past relationships, how did you know they were only a near fit and not a perfect fit?
Who is already in your life — loving you, supporting you — and why are you grateful for them?
Who in your life doesn’t deserve to be there, and makes your life worse in any/some/so many ways?
How can you release toxic relationships from your life? What would that take?