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I get asked questions about how to manifest, and I LOVE answering! Today’s post is a roundup of some recent manifesting questions you’ve had for me, along with my responses.
Today, I’m answering a manifestation question on finding blocks to manifesting, another on what it means when it didn’t show up on your deadline, and another on how to manifest a neighbor moving. Read on for the wisdom!
Do you know where you can ask me more of your manifestation questions? There’s a free Facebook group called Manifesting Good Shit hosted by me! It’s where I share daily guidance, do live videos, answer every single manifestation question you have, and celebrate your manifesting wins with you!
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Manifestation Question 1: What if you don’t know what your blockage is… How did you figure that out?
A: When I manifested the love of my life, and freedom from emotional abuse, and a Penthouse apartment, I didn’t know there were such things as “blocks.”
I deliberately chose to ignore reasons or ideas that said I couldn’t have what I wanted. I processed (FELT & released) any emotion around not having what I wanted, like when I doubted I could find love and made the decision (again) that I would find love. So… maybe don’t look for fucking blocks.
Give yourself whatever you can possibly give yourself right now to meet your own needs whether emotional, mental or physical. The experiences you desire will have no choice but to show up for you then!
We get more of what we think about so if you keep asking what’s blocking your manifestation, you’re going to manifest more “blocks.” More obstacles will show up to keep you from what you want.
I don’t mean to say that you shouldn’t be self-aware or that doing inner work to remove limiting ideas are a waste of time. But… sometimes the thing you need to do to manifest what you want is to take a break from all the inner work, and just BE.
But for those of you craving an action: play with a Sponsoring Thought!
I’ve written on my blog about the singular idea that I kept playing with before the love of my life showed up, and I’ll just give it away here:
“I’m the best girlfriend in the world, and any guy is lucky to have me.”
I would make mental lists of why I was the best girlfriend in the world (even when I didn’t have a boyfriend). Playing with that idea, how could the right & perfect-for-me someone NOT show up?! 😉
Manifestation Question 2: How do you cope when something doesn’t specifically manifest? I think I’m manifesting wrong. Not comfortable saying what but, feeling bummed since I’m pretty sure it isn’t happening. Any advice appreciated! FYI I set 3 dates for three events.
A: To be totally honest: I don’t find dates that helpful to me in the manifestation process. When setting a goal or recognizing my desire for a new experience, I don’t usually attach a date to it.
A shift: What if the Universe’s Timing is infinitely better than your own? Sooner is not always better/best!
I think you’ll benefit from reading this post on Divine Timing >
I’m not big on “God” but I’ve heard the saying, “God’s delays are not god’s denials” and it’s quite a tidy and satisfying idea, isn’t it?!
Another idea: It’s not faith until it looks like it’s not going to happen and you still believe. (Amanda Frances says this.)
And finally, if you’ve got feelings of upset or doubt, please indulge them if briefly. I’ve talked about this and written about this… doubt gets to aid the manifestation process, not stop it!
Read this post on how to embrace doubt to manifest your desires >
Manifestation Question 3: Anyone know how to manifest a neighbor moving? Don’t want to go into detail but, she’s the devil. I just ignore her tbh but, she constantly stirs up drama
A: I really wouldn’t devote too much energy to her or to trying to get rid of her, but focus on manifesting cooperation from all people in your life. And really, that looks like: meeting your own needs and being an example of pure love & cooperation to all those who surround you.
Be cooperative with people and examine your thoughts when you find it impossible to be cooperative with someone.
And feel free to repeat some affirmations or afformations that center on how cooperative the whole Universe and everyone in it are!
Affirmations like… “The Universe, and everyone in it, loves me and wants me to enjoy life.” Afformations would be questions like… “Why am I so easy to get along with? What about me brings out only the best in people?” etc.
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In this post, you’ll learn the 5-step manifesting process, what you can create when you use it, why my approach to manifesting is foolproof, and what I’ve created using it.
There is a five-step process for creating anything you want. It looks like this:
1️⃣ Practice mindfulness, and specifically stop the negative thought train
2️⃣ Engage creative energy, and take one step toward the desired outcome
3️⃣ Be vulnerable, and take away the power the current circumstances have upon you.
4️⃣ Give it up to grace, and surrender to your desired creation entering life in its own damn way.
5️⃣ Worship your body, and give it whatever it needs.
Ahhh….
What else do you need to know?
Honestly, You Can’t Fucq Up Using This 5-Step Manifesting Process
The beautiful thing about these steps? You create while truly practicing all of these steps simultaneously, so you can never truly screw it up. Though there are pitfalls to look out for, and skillful coaching can help you navigate.
These are the same five steps I used to course-correct when I was facing a possible eviction a few years ago (I’ll tell you about this in a future blog post!). They are the steps to manifest solutions to scary problems AND the steps to create awesome good things without drama. (Either way you need to use them, they work!)
THAT’S NOT ALL…
They’re also actually the same steps I took to manifest the love of my life, and we celebrated our 9th anniversary this month!
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This is my methodology which can be used to create whatever you desire.
With This 5-Step Manifesting Process, There’s NO ROOM FOR ANXIETY
It’s simple as fucq, right?! In fact it’s so simple that part of me resists sharing it. But that’s also exactly why I had to.
What Can You Create With This 5-Step Process?
You can truly use this methodology to create anything you desire, including:
- Tangible increase in your income that you’re set up to maintain with consistency. $10k or $100k months anyone?
- Soulmate love. While I’m not going to call myself a relationship coach, you can use this process to manifest magnificent love as I did, and I can help
- Gentle parting of ways from a narcissist (whether a parent, sibling or spouse) for the highest good of you and any two- or four-legged children in your life
- Ditching a day job you don’t want and which doesn’t feel like the highest expression of your power and gifts
- New upgraded living space
- Your dream car like you drove it right off your vision board and onto your driveway
Here’s What I’ve Created Using This 5-Step Manifesting Process
I’ve used this process to create amazing things in my own life, including the following:
- A magnificent soulmate love (we celebrated our 8th anniversary in May)
- A client who has paid me for marketing services every month for 3 years (do you want a long-term client, or many?)
- A penthouse apartment overlooking Pennypack Park in Philadelphia
- Freedom from narcissistic & emotionally abuse family members (because not everybody deserves the gift of your presence and love)
- Sales of trainings, programs and offers inside of my coaching business
SO I ASK YOU:
Really, what is it that your soul craves next? What could you create if you intentionally applied this 5-step manifesting process? Please share in the comments!
I daresay I found my soulmate early in life because of these 3 powerful tips I’m going to share with you today.
Ready to read these 3 powerful tips to help you manifest your soulmate?
It was a month before my 19th birthday when I saw a guy had checked out my OKCupid profile, and I messaged him. That night in May 2010 we went on our first date. Seeing as we’re celebrating our 9th anniversary this week, I’m qualified to share some tips for manifesting your own soulmate!
By doing what I’m going to share with you in this article, I met and fell in love with a man who I have lovingly described as the safe place from which I’ve been able to blossom.
I’ve grown more outgoing, more assertive, more confident, and in so many more ways than I can describe. But I only grew so much because I knew he saw me. Saw me the way I saw me. Saw me the way NO ONE ELSE EVER HAD.
That should give you a hint of the emotional stakes I felt when I was manifesting my soulmate…
I remember how excited I was as a kid for every holiday. As Thanksgiving or Easter approached, I was practically bouncing in my seat, ready to see my cousins and aunts and uncles and my grandmother. I’d build it up in my head. So excited to see them. As an adult, I can’t remember what exactly I thought would happen, but it was like knowing you were going to win the lottery. And then… at some point during the day, I would inevitably experience the crash you feel when the lotto numbers are called and you fuckin’ lost.
Growing up, that sense of emptiness like I’d lost something big was actually pretty persistent.
It didn’t matter WHERE I was… that emptiness followed.
How can I describe the craving I felt for love, kinship, community, BELONGING?
I generally had the sense that I was like nobody else around. No one GOT me. And though I tried, I didn’t really GET them either.
As a teenager, my only hope was that I’d someday find a guy who did get me. I prayed that my soulmate would come along, and fast. This brings me to my first tip for help you manifest your soulmate…
Manifest Your Soulmate Tip 1: Visualize, but more than that… imagine the FEELS
I spent time in visualization, though I wasn’t aware that this was a creative method that would actually bring him to me… I pictured, as my mother drove us somewhere and we sang along to cheesy ’80s music, that I’d someday be driving alongside my soulmate, the two of us singing the same songs I was now singing. I imagined taking my future beau to family gatherings. Imagined him having discussions with my male cousins about sports. I imagined the wholeness I would feel when standing by his side.
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Manifest Your Soulmate Tip 2: Learn to Recognize Near-Fits, and Hold Out for Perfect Fits
My path to my boyfriend taught me that there are near-fits and perfect fits, and you should definitely hold out for the perfect fit.
“You deserve to be YOU. Any change you’re going to make should be a change you want to make. Those around you — and I mean everyone — should be happy to support you in building your life the way you want and let go of their notions of what your life is supposed to look like.”
Rosella LaFevre, Long-Haul Master and Manifestation Teacher
Before Chris came a few other guys but one in particular comes to mind. He is a great guy, and I really hope he found his perfect fit, but we weren’t it. And yet… Spending the weekend at his house, hanging out with his mom was the first time in a while I’d felt at home. His mom was a real person. She wore her flaws on her sleeve but she was loving and kind. In the brief time I spent around her, she showed me unconditional love, of which I’d been starved for a while.
That relationship taught me that I could feel that homey feeling again but I could also hold out for someone who wouldn’t need me to change…
Here’s a really specific example: That boyfriend told me I’d have to learn how to drive if we were going to stay together. The truth is I had one lesson behind the wheel of a Buick Rainier at 16 years old and that was enough for me. To this day, I have no desire to drive. Chris has never forced the issue, never told me I need to drive. He’s happy to be my chauffeur. And now there’s Uber, so that’s awesome…
You deserve to be YOU. Any change you’re going to make should be a change you want to make. Those around you — and I mean everyone — should be happy to support you in building your life the way you want and let go of their notions of what your life is supposed to look like.
If they don’t? Call them in. (And while these tips work for manifesting your romantic soulmate partner, they also work for calling in soulmate friends, soulmate clients, and soulmate employees!)
Manifest Your Soulmate Tip 3: Ruthlessly Edit Toxicity from Your Life
You can also take action to remove the toxicity from your life that prevents your soulmates from coming to you. If there isn’t any toxicity in your life, that’s great! But there was in mine. And truthfully, I didn’t eliminate these beyond-sour relationships until after I met my boyfriend, cutting these ties I’m going to tell you about helped me to manifest a soul family.
“Clearing space for the people who will LOVE you as you are while empowering you to grow may be painful at the start, but it is rewarding as fuck. I promise.”
Rosella LaFevre, Long-Haul Master and Manifestation Teacher
Here’s the most potent example I can give you of this…
Most of that very same family I used to be ecstatic about seeing each Easter (and on every other major holiday) are people I no longer talk to. My parents’ ugly divorce really forced the issue… And I decided to say “ta-ta for now” to my maternal family.
There was anger on their side that I refused to exile my father. And I was pissed as hell that they were trying to make me pick sides. Right before my college graduation I allowed my mother to effectively disown me…
This left a void. I had no idea how I would spend my holidays now. I decided I would never go back until I am apologized to, and that still hasn’t happened nearly 6 years later.
I missed the big family gatherings, though. I missed being surrounded by lots of people, and I craved, even if I didn’t realize it at the time, finding a family that would love me unconditionally.
So the last I saw my mother and her family was Easter Sunday in 2013.
By Thanksgiving 2013, I was invited with my father to spend holidays with a family we’d known for years. These beautiful people are who I’ve spent every Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter with in the years since.
Clearing space for the people who will LOVE you as you are while empowering you to grow may be painful at the start, but it is rewarding as fuck. I promise.
Manifest Your Soulmate: 3 Powerful Tips Recap
Tip 1: Visualize, but more than that… Imagine the FEELS
Tip 2: Learn to Recognize Near-Fits, and Hold Out for Perfect Fits
Tip 3: Ruthlessly Edit Toxicity from Your Life
Manifest Your Soulmate with This Homework
Take some time today to envision (with or without putting pen to paper: your choice) the soulmates you’re making space for, whether they’re a romantic partner, fans of your work, paying clients, or a “new” family that gets you. Here are some prompts for your reflection:
- How will your life change when you manifest your soulmate (or soulmates)?
- How will you feel when you manifest your soulmate, a person who is a perfect fit for you?
- In your past relationships, how did you know they were only a near fit and not a perfect fit?
- Who is already in your life — loving you, supporting you — and why are you grateful for them?
- Who in your life doesn’t deserve to be there, and makes your life worse in any/some/so many ways?
- How can you release toxic relationships from your life? What would that take?
Remember, and here’s your
Manifest Your Soulmate BONUS TIP:
After you comment which of these tips you’re going to try, head on over here to read the single thought I kept thinking to manifest my soulmate.