Abraham Hicks teaches many seminars on how to let go of doubt and get over resistance. Abraham Hicks has said, “We say, no, your doubt is the indication that you’re killing this project with contradictory thought.”
Everyday New Age Spirituality tells readers to “Manifest Desires by Getting Rid of Doubt.”
So many other Manifestation Teachers hype you up into thinking that any negative feeling, like doubt, keeps you from receiving or manifesting your desires.
I say: Not so! You can embrace doubt to manifest your desires.
Doubt can be harmless to the process of manifestation. Sure, doubt could stop you from successful manifestation. (And I’ll cover below the one way you can allow doubt to stop you from receiving.) But it doesn’t have to if you’ll do the two things I’ll tell you below! Let me show you how to embrace doubt.
And let’s begin with a very simple principle: Yes, you can receive the experience you desire if you feel bad before you have it.
You can doubt and still receive it.
You can fear and still receive it.
You can grieve and still receive it.
You can feel unworthy and still receive it.
Heavens, do you actually think every person who becomes a parent feels worthy before they have their kids?! When you think of it this way, it’s pretty easy to see how you could embrace doubt and receive what you desire to manifest, right?
The human part of you can’t hold you back from what your soul knows will serve the growth of every part of you. That’s why it’s safe to embrace doubt when manifesting.Rosella LaFevre, Long-Haul Master and Manifestation Teacher
I Doubted Just Before I Received One of the Biggest, Most Meaningful Manifestations of my Life
Let me take you back in time…
February 2010: I lay on a twin bed, plastic mattress cover crinkling as I rolled over. The huge 8th-floor corner dorm room was dark. Earbuds in, I listened to John Mayer crooning and felt hot tears slide down my cheeks. Feeling so alone, I cried for the love I didn’t have. Every love song I’d ever heard had promised me a love I had begun to think I would never receive. And I wondered, where the hell is he? The mythical He.
May 2010: I lay on my leopard print sheets in my pink-striped childhood bedroom staring at my white MacBook. Logged into the dating site OKCupid, I saw that a guy had checked out my profile. He was a writer like me. I sent him a message and hours later we were on a date listening to The Get Up Kids in his car.
August 2010: I lay in the dark in another bed — his Queen bed — with the guy. We snuggled and listened as the iPod Video plucked from my library the song “Yellow” by Coldplay. We picked it as our song.
See, I experienced doubt and despair as I prepared myself to receive my dream partner, but I always held out hope. I deeply believed that if it were POSSIBLE (and everything is possible!), then eventually it would happen for me that I’d find love.
The Only Way Doubt Could Stop You From Manifesting
There’s just one way that your doubt could keep you from receiving the experience, thing, person you desire in your life. Can you guess how that would happen? With your consent.
OK… that was half the answer. Let’s rewind and check in on what actually is doubt, on what it means to experience doubt.
To doubt (verb), is to feel uncertain about something.
When you doubt, you look at the world around you and allow yourself to buy into the idea that the experience you desire isn’t happening, and possibly can’t or won’t at all happen. The experience of doubting itself is often just a train of thought that we latch onto, continue thinking, and allow to feed our emotions and create inner turmoil. And, like, it’s really not that big a fucking deal… Unless or until you allow it to stop you from taking action.
Manifestation pretty much always requires action. (In fact, I can’t think of a single thing or way you could manifest that wouldn’t require some action.)
Receiving money requires you to notice you have it. To receive money you must deposit a check, ask someone for payment, send along wire transfer information, or even simply log into your banking app to see, hey, there’s money there! (Did the money exist before you observed it?)
Receiving a love relationship requires you to connect with another human being. That requires the speaking of words, the looking of looks, putting yourself in a place where you can be found by someone. Heck, it might require only that you open the door when a salesperson comes or the cable technician. But it certainly requires action.
Receiving a job requires you to take any number of actions: Telling others you’re looking, preparing a resume, getting clear on what work you want to do, possibly getting additional training or certifications.
And so… Doubt only has as much power to block manifestations as you give it. And you only really give it that power when you allow it to mean you should quit taking action.
In that case, if you were to allow doubt that power over you, if you did quit taking action in the direction of your desires, then maybe it’s because you didn’t really want the thing. And that’s perfectly cool! Perfectly valid! If that happens, then the doubt served you very well.
Embrace Doubt Knowing It Can’t Stop Shit – Your Wild Hopes Are Surer Than You Know!
It was a Wild Hope that I’d receive love from a man who could love me unconditionally. I didn’t grow up with examples of healthy relationships. My parents threw things at each other when I was very young. They were separated by the time I turned 15. My maternal grandparents’ marriage fell apart in the late 80s before I was born in 1991. My paternal grandmother passed away when my dad was a toddler and my paternal grandfather passed before I was born.
I think the only example I’d ever seen of a strong relationship was the couple who lived next door, and had me call them Aunt Alice and Uncle John. We attended their 50th wedding anniversary after they moved and before they passed away.
So why I ever thought it would be or had to be possible for me was kind of… wild! I definitely doubted at times. But I also held firm that it had to be possible and as long as it were possible, I’d keep showing up and taking action to put myself in the place where it could find me.
And ultimately, I was kind of young when it did! In May 2010 when Chris and I met, I was excited to be turning 19 the following month.
The amazing thing? Our love was always. going. to. happen.
Doubt can’t stop what your soul is determined to deliver to you.Rosella LaFevre, Long-Haul Master and Manifestation Teacher
My soul knew Chris was coming to me. Or that it was bringing me to him. (However you choose to view that!) What do I mean? Well, five years before we met, I dreamed a very vivid dream. Emotionally vivid. I felt unconditional, soul-stirring, heart-warming love in a dream. I actually thought the dream was about my crush at the time, one of the young guys who worked at the Rita’s water ice stand whose name I still didn’t know at the time. In the dream a name was revealed to me: Christopher.
Here’s a picture of the journal entry where I recorded the dream:
I LOVE that I found this journal entry a couple of years after Chris and I met so that I could show you how inevitable your own Wild Hopes and desires are! Your soul is guiding you. It’s the human part of you that doubts. The human part of you can’t hold you back from what your soul knows will serve the growth of every part of you. That’s why I say you should embrace doubt; it can’t stop what your soul is determined to deliver to you.
How to Embrace the Doubt (The 2 Things You Must Do)
I’ve shown you, with an example from my life, how doubt doesn’t mean you don’t get to have what you desire. You can manifest when you embrace doubt, which is done in two very simple steps:
- Express your doubt. Feel it. Process it by allowing it a voice. (You might journal it out. You might just watch something that helps you to cry and move it with your tears. Or whatever else you find works for you.)
- Keep taking action in the direction of your dreams. I’m not telling you that you need to take action in any specific time frame. But you just keep marching forward. I can’t tell you how many different matches I tried on a dating site before I met Chris. I just kept making myself available for the love I desired to find me. Be like 18-year-old Rosella who kissed frogs to find her prince. (And know it’s OK to set boundaries and have standards, but that’s probably a topic for another post!)
Seriously? I actually deeply love the moments when I doubt. I embrace doubt because doubt has preceded every amazing thing I’ve done. And then I did it anyway. So when I feel doubt now, or a big steaming pile of grief over something that hasn’t happened (yet), I know I’m about to do the amazing!